Between the Problem and the Solution
What is keeping you stuck. .
Before we can introduce the small and correct action choices that lead to recovery from loss experiences, we must discover exactly what is keeping you and consequently your children, stuck.
Exposing the Myths
We are going to expose six myths and ask you to look at each of them and see whether or not they are helpful in dealing with loss.
As you get a clearer picture of the ideas that do not work, you will be able to replace them with ideas that do work.
These will become the new tools you will use to help your children.
Remember, the information children use to interpret their lives is passed down to them by their parents, teachers, clergy and all others who have positions of influence in their young lives.
The things we teach are the things we ourselves learned when we were growing up.
The first part of the book, “When Children Grieve” asks you to look at some ideas that are almost universally accepted, but whose accuracy and helpfulness you may never have questioned. These myths are so familiar, there is a high probability that you will recognize and relate to all of them.
The principal of learning by observing influential examples applies to all areas of life. Here we are primarily concerned with what children are taught to believe about dealing with loss. As you begin to recognize the ways that your children are learning from you, you may realize you learned a great deal of what you believe about dealing with loss when you were a child.
Before we begin to address specific losses like death, divorce, and moving, we are going to show you how the incorrect foundation for dealing with loss is established.
The basic information upon which children rely to deal with loss is communicated very early in life. That information, right or wrong, tends to become the default setting that they will return to in response to all subsequent losses.
From the book. . When Children Grieve written by John W James and Russell Friedman with Dr. Leslie Landon Matthews
There is help . .
If you are interested in participating in the Renew Your Possibility – As Children Grieve 6 week Study group, sign up here.
This is a complimentary study group that will provide you some incredibly valuable safety tips and tools that you will be able to use for the rest of your life and your children’s lives. I guarantee it.
Or, if you are not ready to take that step, purchase the book “When Children Grieve here . .
Or download one of the ebooks under the resources page and read up on grief.
Another option is to Schedule a 15 minute complimentary call to share what your experiencing so you can ask me questions.
Just take that first step. Do something that you have not done before. It’s ok, that your not ok, yet please don’t stay stuck in grief. There is light on the other side.
Remember, “The beginning is the most important part of the work.” Plato
Yours in Gratitude and to Renewing Your Possibility. . .
Debbie Your Grief Recovery Specialist®